When the second shift arrives -- Unplanned parenthood : "why me?" -- Taking immediate action -- Your lifestyle : changed and challenged -- Family at large : your spouse and other children -- Your adult child -- Your troubled grandchild -- Your grandchild and the school -- The drug epidemic at home -- When parents get their children back -- Grandparenting and the law -- Child protection and the dependency system -- Government aid and public assistance -- Special education and early intervention -- Their arms about us: finding and forming support groups -- Conclusion.